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I Talk to Myself

What defines perfect? defines perfect as entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings: a perfect apple; the perfect crime, a perfect 10

I will never be perfect.  And I'm all right with that.  After losing 150 pounds, my skin hangs in places that shouldn't.  Some days, my face looks droopy and my legs still look like clubs.  One thing I know though, I've come a long way, baby.  These "flaws" are all gentle reminders of where I've been.  What really matters is how my inner-voice defines these "flaws" today and the day after.  After years and years of negative self-talk, I've had to learn to retrain my thoughts because thoughts can become a reality if you let them.  Take advantage of your thoughts and think yourself perfect. 

These are some of the affirmations I use daily. 

  • I am beautiful. 
  • I am worth it. 
  • I treat people the way I want to be treated. 
  • I am healthy. 
  • I love to exercise and stretch my body. 
  • I bless people with my words. 
  • I love myself. 
  • I can do anything. 
I have a list of my affirmations at my desk.  I read them daily usually first thing when I come into work.  It helps shape my day.  You could also place sticky notes on your mirrors, your refrigerator or in your car or  make an mp3 of your affirmations to listen to at work or in your car. 

What do you say to yourself? 


  1. First of all, well done on how far you've come! When I lost weight, I had no idea I would be left with loose skin, and it was a bit of a kick in the teeth after I'd put in so much effort - but I would rather have a bit of loose skin and be slimmer and, more importantly, healthier, than the size I was and with 'taut' skin!
    Although I have 'cheated' and had some of the skin removed with surgery, I still some left (on my arms and thighs). I'm just very good at knowing what clothes cover it up! :P

    1. Hi Rachel! thanks for stopping by and for the nice comment. I will most likely be a cheater too and have skin removed after another 100 pounds. I'm already noticing how it interferes with exercise and not to mention rashes. Yuck :)

  2. Hi Mary! I wanted to visit you and tell you how much your comment on my blog meant to me. It's not that often that I hear from someone who's "been there", in the 400's. I've read your blog and your story. How wonderfully you've done!

    "These "flaws" are all gentle reminders of where I've been. What really matters is how my inner-voice defines these "flaws" today and the day after."

    I appreciate this reminder. I need to cultivate that same attitude. I also loved what you said about focusing now on what makes you happy. I, too, spent time looking back to learn from the past. But I've gleaned what I can from it, and for the most part, am now trying to do what you are: live NOW, and pursue my dreams. I spend more time now at my art blog than my weight loss blog, and some don't understand that, thinking I'm "giving up". But not so!! I think you understand, though. I am focusing more on what makes me happy.

    Thank you for understanding... your comment to me gave me tears in my eyes. :-)

    1. Rettakat, I'm so glad my words hit home with you. It took me a long time to find my happy. Once you find it though it is so freeing. I will write more about this and other things I've discovered. I had a blog prior to my surgery and abandoned it when I started living again. I miss the interaction and the friends. I want to help make a difference where I can. I owe that to anyone that needs it. I guess you could say it's my pay it forward :) I do understand and feel free to reach out to me anytime you need a gentle reminder. :) *hugs*


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